Take a moment and ask yourself, why? Why do I love________________ (inserting whomever)? Allow your mind to pounder and explore all the reasons you love this or that person. Go head, ask yourself this question regarding all those you love. Ask those who love you the same question, see what their responses are.
Most people respond in one of two categories, they will either go on to explain characteristics about you, that they love . They will basically speak to the person you are .
Or they will speak of the things you do for them, or how you make them feel. It looks something like this. I love him so much, he is so good to me , he takes care of me, I feel like a princess when I am with him. Or I love him so much, he is a good person, kind and generous to animals and walks in integrity. Do you see the difference? Now, ask yourself, are you willing to be loved only for what you are to someone? Or should you be loved for who you are?
Here at BHP we believe that each person is worthy of love, love that we as individuals must provide for ourselves. We believe that though healing and exploration each person grows and loves themselves much more holistically and in doing so will demand that others love and respect them for the person they are.
If this is an area you would like to work on, please feel free to contact Loretta Gilmore at Birchwood Healing Place.
Loretta Gilmore MSW, LCSW