Life has a way of producing experiences that knock us down. Things do not always go the way we want them to go and sometimes those life events can be debilitating. These things happen to us all, at some point in our journey. But why do some people seemingly bounce back quickly while other do not? Is it genetics, or the way a person was raised? Is it a personality trait or a learned skill? Well this is a question that scientist, scholar and professional debate often and most would say it is a mixture of both. Today I would like to talk about resiliency. I believe this skill is a good predictors of how a person will deal with life's adversities and is a good predictor of positive outcomes. Now , I do not mean positive in the sense that you get your way. No, positive in that you are able to turn a bad situation into growth. I believe that this comes easier to some more than others, but regardless I believe the skills of resiliency can be learned.
Resiliency is the ability to seek and find something positive in every situation
Resiliency is the ability to know and understand that the situation will produce a learning opportunity, and the resilient person will seek out the lesson.
Resiliency is the ability to problem solve and the belief of your capabilities to do so.
Resiliency is knowing that even the mistakes have purpose in the bigger picture.
Resiliency is the ability to feel your emotions without being overcome by emotion.
Resiliency is knowing that , this too shall pass. An event does not dictate the whole.
Resiliency is asking for help when you need it without internalizing negative scripts about the self.
Life events can make it hard to practice being resilient, I know, I get it. I am not saying it is easy. I am saying you can do it. You can change your outlook and reaction to adverse situations and bounce back more quickly. You got this!